I’m laying in my hammock writing in my journal about traps. I have several. Without being explicit let’s say some relate to nutrition, others involve constructive use of time and others are about positive thinking.
This subject began with thinking about making a success of the day. If every day is a success, I’m a success. If every day is a fail, success becomes elusive.
Although there are several areas that I call traps, I believe I’ve come up with a routine that can be applied to all of them. The routine is choosing Pass or Fail. Decide. Where is the true benefit?
Traps lure you in with bait. One of my traps is sugar. I love sweets. The bait is the immediate gratification. The true benefit is forming a no sugar habit. Do I choose fail and eat or buy a pastry, or do I choose pass which is to say no, or find an acceptable alternative like a piece of fruit?
Imagine a compulsive habit like gambling. The awesome news is that one single pass can get you out of the trap. Say no one time and it can be a game changer. Changing direction begins with one decision.
Obviously, you can’t kick an addiction by saying no once, but one time is all it takes to launch a turnaround.
And there’s the bad news. It only takes one fail to destroy a good habit. Have you ever said “just once” then find yourself months later wishing you’d said no, realizing how stupid it was to say yes, “just once?”
I’m blogging about pass fail because I think it’s a strategy that can be used to make a success of a day. At the end of the day, was it a success or failure?
The routine is pass fail which needs to be recognized. The most trivial decision can be a trap. Where is the true benefit in the decision? Every habit has a benefit. The easily obtained benefit is often a key to failure.
One cookie, one lottery ticket, one exception is enough to change my direction. So is one no. Another no and another and another and I start to move away from failure.
It’s not easy, but it’s pretty simple. No doesn’t have to mean nada. No pastry doesn’t have to mean no treat. Find an acceptable alternative. Eat a piece of fruit. If I do it enough I’ll begin to prefer it.
What happens six months later when I’m tempted to eat just one cookie? If I remember that it only takes one fail to step out into the road to ruin, hopefully I take another step away from failure.